Friday, 29 August 2014

Wanneer jy vir jou man bid


Wanneer 'n vrou vir haar huwelik bid


Daar was ‘n tyd in my lewe wat ek nie meer met my man getroud wou wees, onder een dak met hom wou bly nie, en nie meer kans gesien het vir sy woede, venynigde woorde, spitefullgeit, drankmisbruik, ontrouheid ens nie.
Ek was desperaat in my omstandighede en het my tot die Here gewend, my hart onvoorwaardelik vir Hom gegee en gevra om in te gryp. En Hy het. Maar in die tyd het die Here my gewys hoe om ‘oor’ te begin want ek het gou die blaam na my man gewend ‘want hy was immers die onregverdige een, die een wat ons nie mooi behandel het nie, ander se part eerder gevat het’,.. ens.
Ek moes leer dat ek net soveel skuld het soos hy. Ek was verbitterd, opvlieënd, geirriteerd, onvergenoegd, (met rede!!), het hom nie ge-eer as die hoof van die huis nie, het hom nie gerespekteer nie, (want hy het dit nie verdien nie en was nie in lyn nie!  ~ het ek geglo).
Ek het besef dat ek my eie onversoenlikheid teenoor my man moes belei. My verbittering, my woede, my hardheid van hart, my emosionele ontrekking van hom af... want in die Here se oë is daar nie ‘n groot en klein sonde nie. Ek moes leer dat daar geen verskil is of ek my man vloek en of hy ontrou is nie. Die een is nie groter of kleiner as die ander nie. Of jy moord pleeg of skinder – daar is geen verskil nie. Sonde is sonde.
Ek moes die sonde in my hart belei vir die Here om my gebede te verhoor. Ek mos glo dat die deel van ons verhouding wat deur pyn, afsydigheid en selfsug weggevreet is, herstel kan word. Ek moes vertrou dat enigiets wat oor my toegesak het, soos misbruik, ontrouheid, enigiets – herstel kon word. Ek moes besluit het dat alles wat besig was om my man te verteer, soos werksverslawing, alkolisme, ens vernietig kan word. Ek moes vertrou dat die Here ons kon verlos van alles.
 
Ek het geleer dat als begin by gebed.  Die Here het my deur boeke en Sy woord gewys om werklik vir Sy seun, my man, te bid; en in die proses sou Hy my huwelik vernuwe (wat morsdood was) en Sy seën op ons albei uitstort. Op die stadium was ek nie lus om met my huwelik aan te gaan nie, maar nogtans het ek begin bid.
My man was vasgevang in ‘n web van sy verlede en hy moes vrygemaak word daarvan. Die Here het my geleer om vir man te begin bid. En al het ek geglo ek het eerder gebed nodig, was ek te desperaat vir verandering dat ek besluit het om dit wel te doen.
Geleidelik het verandering in ons albei begin kom. Ek het agtergekom hoe meer ek bid, hoe meer vorm liefde in my hart ~ vir die Here en vir my man – en hoe meer ek liefde gevoel het hoe meer het ek begin bid. Dit was weird. Wonderlik weird.
Wanneer my man kwaad raak het ek gebid in plaas van negatief reageer. Wanneer my man nie huis toe kom nie, het ek vir hom gebid ~ al wou ek eerder hé ‘n weerligstraal moes hom tref!
Ek het besluit dat die konflik in my huwelik beiindig sal word en die houvas wat rusie op ons het verbreek sal word.  Ek moes leer bid dat die Here ons uit die put van onversoenlikheid sou haal en ek moes liefde, vrede en versoening spreek en glo en bid.
Moenie jou huwelik afskryf nie. Hy is in staat om die een wat jy het, te neem en van hom ‘n nuwe een in Christus te maak.Ons het die HERE se krag aan ons kant. Ons kan besluit ons veg daarvoor in gebed. Want ‘n egskeiding is nie die oplossing nie.
Ek weet. 
Ek was al daar.
Jou probleme is meer

Daily devotion - 4 my husband

14 Day Prayer Journey 4 u'r husband
DAY 1:

Dear Lord, today I am starting with a journey to pray for my husband.
 
Please give me the strength to follow through with this 14 day journey; to pray without seizing no matter what happens and how he treats me.  Help me to remember that this is a seed of love I am sowing, knowing well that he might never pray for me the way I pray for him. And let it not matter to me.  


Give me a new heart Jesus; one that is soft and kind and merciful towards him and help me to realise that I have to let go of all the wrongs in the past, all the empty promises and all the times he broke my heart.  Make me fall in love with him all over again! Help me to realise that I need to forgive him in order to move forward. Show me how to love and respect him again even if he doesn’t deserve it.  

Let this very first day, be a new day in my own heart, a new day in my marriage... a brand new beginning.
Give me the courage to be strong, prayerful and faithful towards this journey.
All this I ask, in Jesus Name
Amen

Hire the Holy Spirit

Our inner worriers prefer to work the night shift. So we stir awake, then we stay awake. And we walk through our days unrested, unnerved and unprepared for what life might throw our way.

The thing is, worry is a horrible tenant. It lives rent-free in your soul, and furthermore, it demands to be paid — with the deposit of your precious thought life.
Paul says there’s a better way: “Don’t fret or worry,” he wrote to the Philippians – and to all of us. “Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It’s wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life.” (Philippians 4:6, The Message)

Fire the worry-wart. Hire the Holy Spirit. He’s already applied for the job, and is abundantly qualified.
 
~ by Jennifer Dukes LeE (IN)COURAGE

Thursday, 14 August 2014

Obediance is better than sacrifice


1 Samuel 15v22 - and Samuel said " Has the Lord as gr8 delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices as in obeying the voice of the Lord? Behold to obey is better than sacrifice and 2 listen than the fat of rams.
As d Here vi ons vra om iets te doen - wat ook al - en om een of ander rede is ons ongemaklik oor die opdrag, hetsy mens lui is, bang, ens en mens doen ander dinge wat goed en reg lyk en offer dinge op wat d Here nie voor gevra het nie, gaan bedien waar ons nie geroep is nie, is als goed en mooi maar is nie die ding wat die Here voor gevra het nie, bring ons hardships oor onsself en ander. Bv toe Saul nie vir die Here geluister het en die koning doodgemaak het soos die Here hom instruksie gegee het nie ,het sy volk bje swaar gekry. En dit agv sy ongehoorsaamheid.  
Obedience is doing the will and seeking 2 please God.
Sacrifice is seeking to cool off the anger of God.
Disobedience results in a need 2 sacrifice- obedience prevents the need 4 sacrifice.
Obedience is the key 2 a life of joy.
Sacrifice implies a dry, joyless required kind of service that God does not enjoy (Hebr 10.6) therefor when He came into the world He said "...sacrifice and offering You did not desire but a body You have prepared 4 Me. In burnt offerings and sacrifices for sin You had no pleasure..."

Monday, 11 August 2014

My commitment as a disciple of Jesus Christ

I'm part of the fellowship of the unashamed.
I have Holy Spirit Power. The die has been cast.
I have stepped over the line. The decision has been made.
I am a disciple of Him.
I won't look back, let up, slow down, back away or be still.

My past is redeemed, my present makes sense, my future is secure.
I'm finished and done with low living, sight walking, small planning, smooth knees, colourless dreams, tamed visions, mundane talking, cheap giving and dwarfed goals.

I no longer need pre-eminence, prosperity position, plaudits of popularity.
I don't have to be right, first, tops, recognised, praised, regarded or rewarded.
I live by faith, lean on His presence, walk by patience, lift by prayer and labour by power.

My face is set, my goal is heaven, my road is narrow, my way is rough, my companions few, my Guide reliable, my mission clear.

I cannot be bought, compromised, detoured, lured away, turned back, deluded or delayed. I will not flinch in the face of sacrifice, hesitate in the presence of the adversary, negotiate at the table of the enemy, ponder at the pool of popularity, or meander in the maze of mediocrity.

I won't give up, shut up, let up until I have stayed up, stored up, prayed up, paid up, preached up for the cause of Jesus Christ.

I am a disciple of Jesus!

I will go till He comes, give till I drop, preach till all know, and will till He stops me. And when He comes for His own, He will have no problem recognizing me - My banner will be clear.



~ written by Bob Moorhead

Monday, 4 August 2014

I fall short

I fell into a trap that was set to destroy me with open eyes. I became critical, judgemental and began to speak negatively.

I was so caught up in this cycle that I didn’t realise at first how destructive the path was that I was on. 
Until I made the decision to never entertain any negative thoughts towards my husband any longer.
My negative attitude towards my husband affected my once positive attitude towards the world and my world. I began to speak negatively about almost everything and everyone.

The decision to capture my thoughts, once again changed me.  It freed me. As peculiar as it sounds, it did. I became more positive towards negative situations around me. I had a renewed hope in me and it was easier to honour our marriage vows in the times I just wanted an ‘out’-pass. Whenever he says something hurtful or broke another promise or behave in a way that I absolutely hate, I choose to let it go. I choose to not  allow any destructive or negative thoughts towards him. It is a constant decision.
Romans 12v10 ~ be devoted (dedicated, faithful, steadfast) to one another in love. Honour (acknowledge, respect) one another above yourselves.

Marriage choices

When it comes to your marriage.... EITHER be happy or be RIGHT the choice is yours.....